When we face uncertain, painful, or tragic circumstances in life, it can bring along with it sorrow, confusion, anger, pain, addictions, regret, greed, immaturity, fear, blame, shame, resentments, and suffering which are all signs of arrested emotional development. When we get ‘stuck’ in our emotional development, we cease to learn how to take responsibility for our actions and our lives. We get stuck at the point of some trauma that happens in our life that we don’t know how to let go of or to process. Out of these can rise....‘negative’ beliefs of underlying & unconscious commitment such as...... I’m not good enough, I was a mistake, I’m dumb, What a fool I am.....etc. This can make us feel miserable, ruin our relationships with others, and stunt our spiritual growth too. This can build a solid wall between us and the outer world we see, we stop working with adopting and coping techniques towards the environment we are in.
Just as physical pain tells us something is wrong with our bodies, so does emotional pain is a way of telling us all is not well with our emotional being. If we are healthy the emotional development matches physical development. I believe that we go through the emotional stages of responsibility, acceptance.... finally peace and contend. Again, although we all start at the state of helplessness and need which is when we are toddlers, these stages are not age specific. But many a times we all have come across persons who are stuck in one of this stages or so....
When we emotionally get anchored or arrested into any such feelings....we loose out the ability to see the bigger picture of the situation and have a tunnel view....making it difficult to find a solution or improvement...instead getting into repeating the same mistakes or into controlled behavior patterns.
We can over come arrested emotional, froze or fixation through restarting by learning how today's behaviors are sourced in a wound or wounds of childhood. This allows the body to back off of the adrenaline...meaning stops getting into a fight mode and the mind begins to understand "why I do the things I do" and "What I understand, I can resolve". As understanding and knowledge increases, our emotional side develops and we are able to stabilize the vulnerability of getting emotionally effecting. When we also understand what is that I can change and what we can't change it is easier to work accordingly, for example, if you see your face in the mirror and see a spot on it....but instead of cleaning the face to remove the spot..... we repeated just keep cleaning the surface of the mirror and feel that nothing is helping, how hard I try.....it is still going to be the same no matter what....in the same manner instead of understanding that it is not the people that we can change but it is ourselves that we can always work with..by stopping the blaming and regretting on what has happened...instead make the bridge between our outer self (image presentable to others) and our inner true self ( the inner child) by embracing and loving oneself. It can seem impossible but to start with the best way and a small step within is by writing messages to self and later converting it to writing a self maintained diary. It helps us to unlock our emotional fixation about past experiences, daily life situations and get into expressing emotions that we hesitate to open up with others. We can further keep adding techniques to integrate our inner child and free self from getting emotionally arrested.
This festive season give yourself the biggest gift of Freedom, Embrace and Nurture.
Just as physical pain tells us something is wrong with our bodies, so does emotional pain is a way of telling us all is not well with our emotional being. If we are healthy the emotional development matches physical development. I believe that we go through the emotional stages of responsibility, acceptance.... finally peace and contend. Again, although we all start at the state of helplessness and need which is when we are toddlers, these stages are not age specific. But many a times we all have come across persons who are stuck in one of this stages or so....
When we emotionally get anchored or arrested into any such feelings....we loose out the ability to see the bigger picture of the situation and have a tunnel view....making it difficult to find a solution or improvement...instead getting into repeating the same mistakes or into controlled behavior patterns.
We can over come arrested emotional, froze or fixation through restarting by learning how today's behaviors are sourced in a wound or wounds of childhood. This allows the body to back off of the adrenaline...meaning stops getting into a fight mode and the mind begins to understand "why I do the things I do" and "What I understand, I can resolve". As understanding and knowledge increases, our emotional side develops and we are able to stabilize the vulnerability of getting emotionally effecting. When we also understand what is that I can change and what we can't change it is easier to work accordingly, for example, if you see your face in the mirror and see a spot on it....but instead of cleaning the face to remove the spot..... we repeated just keep cleaning the surface of the mirror and feel that nothing is helping, how hard I try.....it is still going to be the same no matter what....in the same manner instead of understanding that it is not the people that we can change but it is ourselves that we can always work with..by stopping the blaming and regretting on what has happened...instead make the bridge between our outer self (image presentable to others) and our inner true self ( the inner child) by embracing and loving oneself. It can seem impossible but to start with the best way and a small step within is by writing messages to self and later converting it to writing a self maintained diary. It helps us to unlock our emotional fixation about past experiences, daily life situations and get into expressing emotions that we hesitate to open up with others. We can further keep adding techniques to integrate our inner child and free self from getting emotionally arrested.
This festive season give yourself the biggest gift of Freedom, Embrace and Nurture.
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